“Sometimes deciding who you are is deciding who you’ll never be again.”
Unknown
You think you know what you want.
But you don’t.
The world has been telling you from the time you were young to do what you want, to follow your passions and do what makes you happy.
Oh, and you need to figure it all out on the first try.
Go to the right schools. Play the right sports. Establish the right career. Marry the right person. Do all these things and more in the right order and you will be guaranteed a life of happiness and prosperity, right?
Sure, you might get lucky sometimes in any number of these areas, but more often we get to the right choices by making a lot of wrong choices:
We take crummy jobs.
Date crummy guys.
Hang with crummy friends.
Make crummy recipes.
Make crummy retirement decisions.
It’s crummy that things are this way.
What’s crummier is thinking that we have to somehow figure out exactly what we want without the process of trial and error.
Life has to kick your ass a couple times on the road to discovering who you really are and what you really want.
In the meantime, just keep doing your best until you get there. Because with each closed door, each wrong turn, you’re one step closer to opening the right door.
If you feel like quitting, don’t lose hope.
You’re one step closer.
Keep going.
Thank you for your positive words of encouragement 🙏🏻
Honestly it gets really hard by the day,we even struggle to keep those choices, just to be certain. Seeking happiness everywhere, trying to seek pleasure to make up for the pain. But we are still here,trying not to give up
Thanks, Cylon.
I lowered my expectations many years ago – and have been so much happier since!
My crummy decisions still teach me stuff – and I survive and learn thereby.
Wishing you and yours a Happy Thanksgiving.
Better late than never!! This post is – as usual – a WOW. It’s so true! And the quote is spot on… knowing who you are is deciding who you won’t be again. I’ve made so many mistakes, and knowingly made so many bad choices. What makes them “OK” is that I’ve been blessed with the knowledge that it’s OK as long as I learn from them and for the most part, I have. Thanks be to God!